In Memory Of...

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An emotive subject and I have no objection to the mods removing this thread, but was just thinking about how many of us plant something in the memory of a loved one and whether here was a good place to share? I only ask because I was just looking at some climbing roses me and Mrs DG planted last year in memory of my mum and her nan and it's heartening to see how well they are doing. Perhaps members would like to post a picture of their departed loved one/s along with the plant/s in their memory in this thread as a reminder of the love they shared.

[Susie Snowdrop]

Nothing wrong with being emotive

I planted a rose called 'Remember Me' for my beloved Auntie

S x

[Tig]

My Mum died in 1992, I pinched a cutting of a hardy fuschia which was overhanging the path near to the pub we used for her send off. I planted it when I got home and 15 years later it is a wonderful healthy specimen, and is growing in many neighbours gardens because it grows so easily from cuttings!
I kept a cutting of a white carnation with a tiny drop of red in it from my Dads funeral. That was 10 years ago this November, and it is still growing too.
If we ever move both will come with me.

[andy]

I took loads of stuff from my mother in laws garden when she died and planted them all over the garden at work plus i have some stuff at home too. I've taken loads of cuttings so her plants will carry on.

My dear nan died a month ago....she was 95 so she had a good life and we're going to plant a red climbing rose over my mum and dads front door.

Lastly....when i croak it (might not be too long the way i feel at the moment ) i want a copper beech tree planted in the local park.

[Deleted]

Hello Andy

Haven't seen you around for a while. Sorry to hear your sad news mate.

FA

[JennyWrenn]

I planted a Marjorie clem in memory of my dear Godmother Marjorie

Lovely ideas

[isabella]

So sorry to hear the sad news about your Nan Andy I send you my love.

I have planted some Lavender in memory of my Dear Dad - he always picked a few sprigs from the Lavender in our garden and put it in his pocket

[Plocket]

I've never planted anything in memory of anyone but will when the time comes

[Cheerypeabrain]

My sister bought my Dad a beautiful magnolia 'Betty' a few years ago...that was Mum's name.
The plants in my garden are fairly transient as I'm always moving stuff about, ripping things out and planting new stuff....the area at the back of the garden, where we have ferns and acers and a big old 'bus shelter' gazebo is called the 'Kipper Memorial Garden' amongst friends and family...we built it after our beloved Kipper Slobbadogabitch died in 1994. ( pointless gardening up till then as she just dug everything up)....in fact most of our interest in gardening blossomed from that point, so you could say that the whole garden is a sort of memorial....

[Shrubrose]

Cpb,

A lovely tribute.

[Deleted]

.....and a fantastic name for a dog !

I am still hunting for the right plant to plant in memory of a friend. I decided on a golden leafed ceanothus because he had sunny disposition, it's in bloom around the time he died and it has blue flowers (he supported Ipswich). Haven't found the right specimen yet, but I keep looking and will find one eventually.

FA x

[oldmoleskins]

It varies from person to person, of course, but I've found the elderly remarkably pragmatic, and open to a conversation about this sort of 'memorial'. In my own parents' case they hankered after a walnut tree - and my mother, who outlived my father, finally lost patience with waiting and bought it with me, and watched it planted and declared herself well pleased...

I would urge you to ask while you have a chance, if indeed you do. You will be sure of getting it right, that way.

OM.

[madonplants]

My FIL died last November and as he was into Orchids, I bought the OH a couple, one from me and one from the kids for Christmas! They are still alive as well!! Does that count? Also, when I lost my dog Jemma, I planted a Prunus Serrula to remember her by. Trouble is, I have moved a few times since and each time had to plant another one. Thought about moving the original, but chose against it, due to size and would it have fitted in the removal lorry!

Keith

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This is a pic of the two climbing roses mentioned in the first message. Not the best pic, but just glad they have both done well since planting last year;

[torontotrini]

A very close friend of mine died in April of this year after a very short bout of cancer. She died within 3 weeks of being diagnosed. She was the first friend I made when I came to Canada about 40 years ago. I met her at the high school I went to and we remained friends since then. Her name was Roslyn but everyone called her Rose. So on the day after her funeral I bought a rose and planted it in her memory. It's called Canadian Sunset. It has already put out a couple of blooms. This is what it looks like.

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So sorry to hear your freind passed away TT but what a lovely way to remember her.

Did you see that Yahoo photo's is closing by the way ? You'll need to find a new host for your pictures.

FA x

[torontotrini]

Hi FA. Yeah. I've seen thei Yahoo message about closing their photos thingy. They're suggesting that people move to something called Flickr or something like that. I guess I'm going to have to come to friendly terms with Photobucket.

[Deleted]

Hi Toronto, would definitely recommend Flickr. Very easy to convert the account, and because it's a Yahoo company you can use your log in details

[weedorcas]

Well, this has put a tear in my eye for the day ahead!!!
Fortunately, I have been so lucky, and still have my loved ones with me, but I have buried three of my dogs. Two are in my present garden buried together, wrapped in a blanket, under a beautiful shrub rose called The Jacobite Rose, an old Scottish Variety. The dogs were Dandie Dinmonts, an old Scottish breed, so it seemed appropriate.
Though I wanted him close, I didn't bury my Golden Retriever here. He loved the open spaces and the hills, so I went back to a previous garden, which had an open wild area, and asked the owners if he could be buried there. They kindly said yes. He has no memorial plant, just the grass, but that suits his memory.
Oh, I need a cuppa now!!!

[nightowl]

There's a tear in my eye now WD. Sounds wonderful what you did for your Retreiver, and how kind of the people to let you.

As for your Dandies, please tell me they didn't both die at the same time. That really would finish me off.

[Weeterrier]

nolawn said:

There's a tear in my eye now WD. Sounds wonderful what you did for your Retreiver, and how kind of the people to let you.

As for your Dandies, please tell me they didn't both die at the same time. That really would finish me off.

I have only just seen your note, nightowl, My wee Dandie Dinmonts were almost the same age, and one day I looked at them and realised how old they were getting. I remembered the way they used to be, and I just felt it was cruel and selfish of me to keep them any longer. I had the vet look at them, and he agreed. They weren't in pain, but everything was a great effort for them.
So, I bit the bullet.
The vet came to the house, we gave them a roast chicken to have a go at, then I held them on my knee and he injected them. So I was able to bury them together, as they had been almost all of their lives.
It was sad, but also, I felt glad that that they would not get worse, and perhaps be in pain.
I'm miserable now!!!! They are a lovely breed of dog, sadly an endangered one now, because bitches are prone to a disease which means they have to be spayed.
As for my Golden Retriever, he was the handsomest boy. My daughter said he was the Cary Grant of the dog world . ( Well, we all say that about our own!)

[nightowl]

WeeT, that was a very brave thing you did for your Dandies. It must have been sooo hard for you but, I think, a good thing.

I wish more people thought like you because there's no sadder sight than a very old dog, obviously half-blind and barely able to walk, being dragged up the street. It's so cruel to let them go on too long.

Do you have any pics of your Dandies that you could show us? I believe they are sandy-coloured, wire-haired and stumpy-legged aren't they? And your lovely Retriever too of course!

You know we are gluttons for animal pics on here!

[Weeterrier]

Yes, I have photos. I'll set up my scanner later and copy some. Dandies come in two colours, mustard, which is the sandy colour, and pepper, which is a mixture of greys. Mine were both mustard. It is thought that they were originally a cross between the dachshund, brought over by gypsies travelling the borders of Scotland and England, and a terrier used by farmers in that area. The terrier had no defined characteristics, a bit like the Jack Russell is today. So when the crosses happened not just one type of dog was produced, both The Dandie Dinmont and the Bedlington Terrier are thought to have come from the matings. The Dandie is the oldest recorded Scottish Breed but the Bedlington is an English breed. They were used for hunting badgers,so although small, they are strong brave little dogs, Their main attribute is that they are usually friendly to all, but particularly loyal to their master. One of mine was a complete slut with everyone, but the other only had eyes for me!
See you later! ;D

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I planted Livingstone daisies because my gran used to love them and always had them in the garden in summer. Now I will always have them in my garden. She called them sunflowers and everytime I see them open & beautiful in the sun I fondly remember sitting in my grans garden with her & the times we shared when she was still with us.