Hi Pennylane – as Weeterrier quite rightly says please don’t think that any question is stupid....we learn by asking...
I have always regarded gardening a bit like interior decorating - - you have to get the eye to see what you want it to, and not necessarily to see what is there, to gloss over the “none too wonderful” bits.
I replied on my garden thread, to a question about roses that droop this….
“Thanks - well as far as "facing up " is concerned - the trend has been for quite a few years to produce big fantastic smelling, heavy headed roses - not only David Austin, of course.
In the 2nd or 3rd year you will get stronger shoots but basically if a rose has been bred to droop it will droop. I make my roses do what I want them to do in the limits that they themselves are capable of doing.
What I am trying to say is that if a bush roses looks better being grown in the corner of one of your borders at the height of 2 meters, then let it - if the result of that is bare shoots underneath - plant something to cover that bareness up.
No-one can make an upright flowering rose like a TH droop or a miniature rose become a climber but you can make a TH rose look "the part" by planting something near it that takes the stiffness away from it - something light and feathery perhaps and by planting a miniature rose in a tub and giving it height that way.
Another way to help is using hazelnuts twigs for example, bended over into a "U" shape and put into the ground so that the shoots/flowers cannot droop so much. It looks natural and helps.”
I strongly feel that no matter what you grow in your garden – shrubs, trees, roses, perennials you can always use a little “camouflage” to show a garden off to it’s best.
Just a small example…. I have a couple of roses that only really look their best if I let them grow far higher than they should – similar to your problem, if for other reasons. I decided to do some cosmetic surgery as you can see from the pics underneath.
Here is a rose that I have let grow far too high , simply because it looks great …
and as you can see it looks bad at the bottom with bare stems. So I covered them up with a tub.
It works – one things that I must perhaps explain is that I have an astilbe in a tub (think they grow better) and a rose – not perhaps the ideal combination , at first glance. However I also feel that many many perennials grow in other conditions that they are perhaps accustomed to, if we are prepared to help them, - i.e. more water etc. I suppose it is also planting things in uneven numbers – 1, 3 , 5 and not 2, 4, 6….and roses planted in 3’s and 5’s are a dream - make a plant do what you want it to, within the limits that it can. The use of hazelnut twigs or other "bendy wood" is marvellous - it looks good and is natural - cheating, but who cares!!
Sorry I have warbled Pennylane – as WT says hardy geraniums are ideal or perhaps hostas and astilbes..so many things.
I hope others have some good ideas to help…
RF