I cant take anymore heartache

[Deleted]

I was not sure weather to post this on here or not.
I was perfectly happy on Monday but on Tuesday my whole world fell apart.
My OH told me that he did not want to be with me anymore we were together for nearly 15 years, as you can imagine im in bits.
He is not prepared to give it another try he has made up his mind and there is nothing i can do about it.
He also told me that ive done nothing wrong its him thats at fault and not to blame myself, well i do it must have been something i have or have not done.
My main concern now is my son and i will make sure he does not suffer, we are both comforting each other the little darling made me a card and bought me some lovely flowers to cheer me up.
My family and friends are a great support to me.

I may not get on here now as much as i like as im not sure if i can stay in the house, im going to get legal advice next week, because we are not married im not sure were i stand.

Sorry to have come on with more bad news.

Karen x

[Jardack]

Karen

I am so sorry to hear this Wish there was something I could do to make you feel better but can only send (((hugs)))

Thinking of you

Jardack

[Biggles]

Dear Karen--It is so sad when things dont work out. I do feel for you and you have my Wishes for a better future for yourself and son. One day you will look back and say " Que Sera, Sera". My thoughts are with you,--

Bigs

[farmersboy]

Oh Karen,im so so sorry,dont know what to say,15 yrs is a long time,you have got to be strong for your son,dont leave this board,people on here will help all they can.

Lots of love.

[Deleted]

Thanks Jardack its hard for people to know what to say in these situations, just knowing ive got friends and family to talk too will get me through im a survivor and i will get through this.

Karen x

[Deleted]

Thanks Biggles FB im not leaving the boards ive got lots of great friends on here.
If i do go off it will only be temporary till i get sorted but i will let you know before i do.

Karen x

[Ruthie]

Karen, so sorry to hear your news. We may not be able to offer practical help but we can offer a virtual shoulder and a listening ear when needed, so feel free to "vent" on here.

[Deleted]

Thanks Suparuthie its knowing ive got friends who will listen and talk to me that will get me through.
My spirit has gone for now but i will get it back.

Karen X

[Ladygardener]

Karen, my heart goes out to you. I'm glad to hear you have good family and friends near you and you have many friends here too. Big hugs.

[Deleted]

Thanks LNG Im putting my garden on hold for the moment but one thing is for sure im keeping my lottie going, it will help take my mind off things.
I will get back on top its going to take time, what do they say time is a great healer.

Karen x

[Deleted]

You're having a really rough time of it at the mo aren't you Karen. I'm sorry to hear of your bad news.

I don't expect it to be much of a consolation but I've been there, done that and come out the other side a better person with a better life. The first Mrs FA did exactly the same to me. It's horrible to have to go through but take each day as it comes and try to be strong for your son.

Take care
FA x

[Tig]

I wish we could give you more than a virtual group hug Karen, but close your eyes and feel the warmth of everyone



Stay strong for your young lad, as you say, you are a survivor

x Tig

[Deleted]

Thanks FA ive been through this before with my X husband and i thought this one was going well, he has done to me what his X wife did to him, im trying not to show how im feeling to my son and trying to keep things as normal as possible but its not easy.
as you said take each day as it comes and thats what im doing.
William is feeling it too how do you tell an eight year old that his daddy does not want to be with us, it broke my heart when i told him but he had to know, its awfull when children are involved me and my baby are feeling it but we will get through this.

Karen x

[Deleted]

Tig Its knowing ive got friends that care that will help me and William get through this.

back to you all and thanks for being there for me all of you that means a lot xxx

[Amo]

Aww Karen I can't say anything other than, hang in there kiddo! You're little lad will always be there for you, you'll never stop being a Mum. Good luck and be strong as you can but don't bottle it.

[snowowl]

Karen i am so sorry to hear this sad news and i will be thinking of you i no you must feel worried right now.But you must take consolation with your son.
Sending you my bestest wishes and hoping for a happy future for you

[Shrubrose]

Cant add anything to what's already been said Karen but here's a

Shrub.x

[Jonah]

Ditto everything said Karen, best wishes to you and your son, hope things work out ok.

[purplejulia]

I am sorry to hear your sad news Karen. Remember there will be some better times ahead. You are still young and you have your son who needs you.
I wish you well and remember you have some good friends on the boards.

Julia xxx

[Weeterrier]

Karen, nothing much to add to what has already been said. You have been through a great deal recently, and this feels like the last straw. There will be many of us here who have been where you are, and have come through it better and stronger. You have your son, the most precious thing, and you will get through it together. He will be sad, but he still has his Mummy.
It is difficult to see ahead out of the darkness, but that is natural. Come on here and let it all out.
I hope all goes well at the lawyer's. Nowadays not being married doesn't take away all of your rights.
You can do it Karen. Remember, you are a woman, you can do anything Everything you need to get through is right there inside you.

[Plocket]

Oh Karen you've been through so much. Eventually you will realise that you can't make him stay if he wants to leave, because that would make things awful for you both. You have your son and together you can be strong. Take each day as it comes, and if you do get a chance to get online occasionally you know you have friends here to talk to about anything.

[nightowl]

Oh Karen, as if you haven't been through enough recently!

Can only say I hope you can get through this with all the support that's there for you

You know you can rant, rave, whinge and moan to us on here. Please keep up your contact with us

[Deleted]

dear karen, lots of love and kisses and i hope you are ok, and that when the sun finally shines, that it will warm your heart again
and help you to grow and flourish even stronger. stay in that pink bubble of love and make sure you do nice caring things for yourself and your wee man :-*take care, forever...

[Deleted]

So sorry to hear of your trouble, Karen .... all the best to you and your young one ...

[Susie Snowdrop]

I'm so sorry to hear your news Karen . Stay strong, keep your head held high and it won't be long until there's light at the end of the tunnel



S x

[Barbara]

oh god karen, i'm so sorry, i cant add anything to what people have already said, i just hope you soon find happiness again.

[thecleaninglady]

Hi Karen
Just wanted to send you and your son



Take care xx

[Deleted]

Hi Karen. Only just seen your post So very sorry that you're having a bad time. Please look after yourself, and remember that you have friends here always

[dirtyboots]

Hi Karen,

So sorry to hear your news, you will get through it. I cann't add anymore to what has already been said.



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[roan]

Hi Karen, so sorry to hear your news and even although I live on the other side of the world to you, I will be thinking of you and your son.

Here in NZ if a couple have been together for three years or more they have to divide their assets 50/50 when they separate. Does it work the same way where you are?

Presumably too, your son's father will have to provide for him.

I am pleased that you are seeking legal advice as I am sure all these avenues will be looked at.

Just make sure that you get all you are entitled to.

Take care and keep in touch.