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Post by Plocket on Jun 30, 2008 9:36:26 GMT
Karen I'm delighted you are sounding so positive. You are a wonderful woman going through a tough time but we are all here offering our virtual shoulders when you need them. You are right - you ARE stronger than him, and better too. Keep your chin up!  Px |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2008 18:28:21 GMT
Thanks for your replies, im still positive and he is away, its good to have some me time.
Karen x
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Post by nightowl on Jun 30, 2008 18:30:25 GMT
Keep your pecker up Karen  , cos HE can't!! ;D  |
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Post by Shrubrose on Jun 30, 2008 18:33:12 GMT
Yes Karen - use the time to recharge your batteries and to get stronger. It's so hard living in the same house as someone you will have no future with and I think you must be stronger than you actually realise to be able to do it. And remember, your boy needs you to be steady so focus on him and you and what you need to get through this.  |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2008 15:34:12 GMT
Thanks both, we have had a good week so far, and are enjoying our time without his dad.
Will get on later over the weekend if i can
Karen xx
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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2008 17:21:20 GMT
Hi all just an update.
Things are going ok here got paperwork sent off to my solicitor waiting for a peply now, he still goes away on his days off and at weekends and is in bed most of the time when hes on shifts so i dont have to see him that much.
William is getting used to him not been around so when we are not with him anymore it may be a bit easier for him to cope with.
Chris asked me yesterday to check with the school when they can take them out and what is a bad time.
When i asked why he said he would like to take him to Florida for 2-3 weeks next year, i nearly fell to the floor, well would of if i had not been in bed ;D i said i hope you know what you are letting yourself in for.
Hes not very patient, i can imagine after a few days of them being there me getting a phone call saying can you get on a flight and pick him up ;D.
It will do him good to have him for a while then he can see what i have to deal with, but i know how william gets upset when his dad shouts at him, so as you can imagine im scared to let him go but why should he miss out on a holiday i cant give him now.
I will not stop him but it would be nice to have some time on my own, hope you dont think im being selfish, but it would be nice to have a break.
I will let you know if anything happens
Karen xx
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Post by Jasmine on Sept 19, 2008 17:25:32 GMT
Never feel guilty about wanting some time to yourself Karen - it is vital - and how ever much we love our little ones (and sometimes it is so much you feel you are going to burst) we still need some time that is just for us.
Jx
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Post by Plocket on Sept 19, 2008 17:48:42 GMT
Karen you mustn't feel guilty. You are going through a very difficult period of your life and have had to make some serious decisions. Everyone needs a bit of space sometimes and it might be good for William and his dad to have some time together. Make sure you plan to do some nice things even if it's just going for a bike ride or a walk because being on your own might take a bit of getting used to. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2008 19:24:31 GMT
Thanks both, it was hard when william said are you coming mummy i nearly broke in to tears well i did later when he was in bed.
I would miss him but would also enjoy the time not having battles, ive got lots to keep me ocupied now and would put all my energy into that.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 8, 2008 18:45:37 GMT
Hi all ive got an update it may go on but please bear with me.
He came in on sunday from work and said he would talk to me on monday after i finished work, monday came nothing he said he did not have time and would talk tuesday.
Came home from work nothing went to get wills, he said we will talk when you get back, still nothing i went out for a walk.
Came home got a drink and went upstairs he came up and said have you decided when you are leaving and whats happening, i flipped ans said i will tell you when ive heard from my solicitor.
I calmed down and we had a good talk, he still thinks i cant have a claim on the house ive told him i can he went on the net and said there you are, i told him that as ive put money into the property its a different matter and we also have a son together.
He said if i dont leave he will and that he will stop paying things and tell the bank, he said that he just wants to move on, i replied you think i dont, i do cant come soon enough for me but as i told him its out of my hands for now.
Ive called my solicitor today and im still waiting for her to call me back, i will be on the phone again in the morning and if she does not contact me i will get another one, i also said to him to tell his solicitor to contact mine then things can get going.
He did say he goes away a loy as he cant be in the same house as me so i said well at least your son will be used to you not been around.
We discussed lots of other things but i dont want to bore you all anymore.
I just want to move on as much as him
LOL Karen xx
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Post by Barbara on Oct 9, 2008 7:45:30 GMT
how can he not want you both to be safe, how can he want to throw you both out with nowhere to go, what sort of a man is this.  |
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Post by nightowl on Oct 9, 2008 8:40:16 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2008 16:03:41 GMT
Thanks both its true you dont xx
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2008 13:55:38 GMT
It all kicked off again last night, he could not get into his briefcase and was blaming me, he then said that i better get on to my solicitor as he was putting the house on the market next week.
I told him he could not do that as he was not providing a home for wills, he said that wills can stay with him, hes got no chance.
I phoned my solicitor and told her what was said and was told he does not have to provide a home but he does have responsibility for his son.
She then told me that she can put a restriction order on the property so any potential buyer wh looks at it will know ive got an interest in the property and they wolnt want to know.
I told him she will be writing to him and left it at that, one thing for sure is im not going anywere not yet.
She did ask if i was staying till william is 18 and i said i was not sure if it was worth it i may just take the money then ive got no reason apart from wills to have any contact with him, it will get sorted but for now im staying put and he can lump it.
Karen x
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2008 18:55:42 GMT
nothing has moved on with x the house has not been put on the market yet but he is off next week so he may do it then.
Im moving on with my life and have not been as happy as i am in ages, things are finally looking up for me.
Karen x
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2008 20:13:34 GMT
Things have moved on ive put a restiction order on the property so he cant sell it i met a new bloke but i dmped him something was not right, im still in the house till things are sorted out.
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Post by Tig on Nov 16, 2008 0:28:30 GMT
Glad to hear it Karen - take care ...  x Tig |
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Post by nightowl on Nov 17, 2008 9:11:56 GMT
Things have moved on ive put a restiction order on the property so he cant sell it i met a new bloke but i dmped him something was not right, im still in the house till things are sorted out. Well done you Karen  You'll probably not be ready for a serious relationship for a good while  After what you've just been through you are going to be extra sensitive to anything that is even slightly "not quite right" about any new man. You'll always wonder if there was something you just didn't pick up on when you got together with the @rsehole! I know that's how I've always thought when a man I thought was wonderful turned out to be a bad news and I've wondered why I didn't see it coming  Love truly is blind (and stupid too!)  |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2009 20:25:08 GMT
Sorry ive not been on for a while, all is ok nothing has changed here.
Im still in the house but im letting his solicitor do all the work, ive given up with mine now.
She says she has not received emails ive sent and im not sending anymore.
X is hardly ever here now hes either at work or with his new womanin hull.
I dont mind im enjoying the peace while hes away, and im keeping busy with my allotments things.
I have one bit of good news, im not sure if you no but ive been working in a kitchen as an assistent since october.
My boss has been off ill and may be off for some time so we have got a releif cook to cover her.
I have been for the last 2 weeks been training as a cook, and if i am ok after half term i can run the kitchen until my boss comes back.
After that if i still want to i can apply for a cooks job and will go to cook in different schools where required.
I have also got the option of just being a releif, that means i can still do my assistant job but if they need a cook i can go and help out when required.
Im not quite sure what i want to do yet but its a start, if i do the cooking till my boss is backi will get paid a cooks wage not an assistant.
Things seem to be looking up for me on the job front, and thats good.
I do feel a little bit awkward about things and have not told my boss because she was going to train me and i dont want her to think im after her job because im not.
Its awfull as i dont want to upset her not with what she is going through.
I no the saying look after no 1 but i always think of other people always have done, so for now i will do the job as a releif, then when im more experienced i will maybe go for a school but who knows what will happen.
Apart from all that im ok and me and wills are doing well.
Thanks for listening
Karen
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Post by Ruthie on Feb 3, 2009 21:01:25 GMT
Glad to hear things are going OK Karen. I'm sure your boss will realise that you are not trying to step into her shoes but just to progress a little in your own work. I'm sure you'll make a great cook!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2009 20:52:27 GMT
Thanks suparuthie, today did not go well at work and tomorrow will be worse but im not letting it get to me.
Ive got so much to learn and very little time to do it, im no way going to be able to take over after half term, i think i will need at least another month to get up to speed and im going to say im not ready if they ask me.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 9, 2009 19:30:22 GMT
Sorry ive not been on for a while.
I feel awfull just coming on to post on this thread, i dont have as much time as i used to do.
im not myself at the moment im going to the docs on wed.
Im ok but very depressed, lots of things getting me down, i dont want to bore you all so i wolnt, it would be a megga message if i did.
Im ok so dont worry just very depressed and lonely but i will be ok.
Karen x
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Post by nightowl on Mar 10, 2009 9:29:23 GMT
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Post by snowowl on Mar 10, 2009 11:17:29 GMT
I agree with NO talk all you want Karen it helps.We are only virtual freinds but i think we all know each other on here. Depression is awfull i know from experiance and its even worse when you have no one to talk to, I hope your doc gives you something to help in the meantime heres a from me.  |
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Post by Auricula on Mar 12, 2009 18:42:39 GMT
Please Karen, don't shut people out - it really does help to talk and we are all here to listen We are thinking of you and will be here when you're ready to share |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 18, 2009 20:44:45 GMT
Only 3 months late with my reply, had lots going on with work etc had no time to myself, ive also been very depressed and not felt like talking much, locked my self away so to speak.
Im ok for now, talk soon
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Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2009 21:03:43 GMT
Well her goes
Ive finally started to get my life in order witn help from a frien that gave me a kick up the bum, i told her what was in my solicitors letter i got on friday.
I have done a lot of thinking over the weekend about the letter and also what my friend had sais.
Well here it is. im taking my xs offer of £35.000 and im off he can have his house and rot in it.
I need to start a new life for me and william and thats what i intend to do , i may have a hose to rent from one of the teachers at the school wher i work as she is moving into her mums so she is keeping me in mind and the animals are no problem, i was asking about catchment areas and saios i may be moving thats when she said about hers i will know in 2 weeks but im still looking for rented accomadation in the mean time.
I think in a way i was afraid to go as i would be losing part of my life and was afraid 2 but i have to face up to things and thats wfat im doing now.
LOL Karen xx
I will keep you all posted if i can xxxx
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Post by Auricula on Jul 6, 2009 22:36:11 GMT
Really hope all goes well for you Karen |
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, cos HE can't!! ;D
You just never know do you? 
