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Post by Weeterrier on Apr 8, 2008 19:37:07 GMT
Glad you are feeling a bit more positive. Believe me Karen, there are worse things that being on your own. Being with a man like yours is one of them.
I hope it all goes wrong for him too.
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Post by Essexgirl on Apr 9, 2008 8:48:47 GMT
If you were leaving him and he was staying in the house then I could think of a few more revenger things such as kippers under the bed and behind the fridge/radiators... or prawns.... ;D Cress in the carpet, hair removal cream in the shampoo... Oh the fun I used to have ;D And there was me thinking you were a sweet,inocent,lovely young lady  Only men could drive women to these sort of extremes. ;D |
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Post by prodigal gardener on Apr 9, 2008 16:20:46 GMT
God, how true that is. I dont know why tho cos half of them aint even worth the bloody effort ;D
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2008 17:54:30 GMT
An update.
Ive been to the CAB this morning and they have advised me to get a solicitor and said that i do have rights and that i will have total responsibility for my son.
Ive got an appointment to see a solicitor on the 22nd of this month and they can tell me what i am entitled to and where i go from here.
He asked me today how i got on and i said they did not tell me much, he was not impressed i would not tell him what had been said, he also asked if i was doing some washing could i put his in with mine, i replied no do your own you want to be single so get on with it, he is not at all impressed and said i hate this tit for tat my reply was well you started it ;D
Anyway apart from that im starting to get my appetite back and ive got some Natrasleep tablets to help me sleep better, they are just herbal so im giving them a try, i slept better last night than i have for a long time only waking 3 times but soon whent off again, not bad considering ive been waking between 10- 15 times a night before that.
Thanks for listening again
Karen xx
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Post by Barbara on Apr 11, 2008 17:59:18 GMT
good for you karen, you wouldn't ask him to do your washing would you.
get all the advice you can, and take your questions written down, then you will ask all the right stuff, and not forget stuff you meant to ask. and stay strong as you are.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2008 18:05:50 GMT
Thanks Barbara Ive started making a list already of what i want to ask but im sure i will keep adding to it ;D
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Post by nightowl on Apr 11, 2008 18:38:02 GMT
You sound a lot better Karen  Just remember, if he starts having a dig at you, think about the button-mushroom winky! ;D ;D ;D (though it might not be a good idea to say "Shut up Mr Floppy!")  |
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Post by MamIDdau on Apr 11, 2008 19:02:22 GMT
2 drops of lavender oil on a tissue besides your bed will help you sleep too Karen. Want me to send you some?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2008 19:27:02 GMT
Thanks Nightowl He does keep asking what im laughing at ;D im not saying anything though.
April if you have some spare that would be good.
Thanks both Karen xx
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Post by MamIDdau on Apr 11, 2008 19:29:01 GMT
PM me your address Karen. I've still got it in the sat nav but I'd need the sat nav to find the sat nav at the moment!
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Post by prodigal gardener on Apr 11, 2008 20:16:31 GMT
Hi Karen, I have a red top that runs every time I wash it - want to borrow that to put in with his washing - the CHEEKY b*st*rd  Good move not telling him anything too - let him wonder. Dont forget to keep smiling - it will drive him mental ;D ;D ;D  |
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Post by prodigal gardener on Apr 17, 2008 18:00:01 GMT
Hi Karen how you getting on?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2008 15:20:29 GMT
Ive not been able to get on the PC as hes been around all week.
Its been a very tough week and the atmosphere has been tense and strained but calm.
ATM i cant stand him been around and ive got so much anger and hate i just want to lash out at him but that will make things worse.
Ive been getting depressed and i cant sleep so ive been to the doctors and she has given me some sleeping tablets, im not sure if they are helping me sleep or if its because im so physically and mentaly exhausted that ive tired myself out.
My 1 year old nephew was taken into hospital with Phnumonia on Wed but he is home now and my other nephew has been told his Kidneys are now both working at 20% if they go to 15 he will have to go on Dyalisis, its just been one thing after another this week.
Wed evening i went for a drive put on my music and had a really good cry let it all out, when i got home i got whats up with you, my reply if you dont know you never will.
Ive been ok for the last 2 days and he is away for the weekend so i can have time for me and William without him been here.
I need my legal advice now so i can try and get my life back again, and i know ive got a few more tough times ahead, im just hoping im strong enough to get through it, i will im sure.
Sorry for going on Karen x
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Post by farmersboy on Apr 18, 2008 15:34:30 GMT
You go on as much as you want love,its good to get it off your chest,im sure the people on here wont mind,good luck,and lots of love  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2008 15:43:51 GMT
Thanks FB I had thought about getting a punch bag but decided against it i might hurt myself ;D
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Post by Weeterrier on Apr 18, 2008 16:14:51 GMT
I just cannot get over the fact that he has the cheek to stay in the house. I'd be furious, and doubt I'd be able to keep my mouth shut. Though I know you have to think of your wee one.
You are doing well Karen.
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Post by farmersboy on Apr 18, 2008 16:54:20 GMT
Thanks FB I had thought about getting a punch bag but decided against it i might hurt myself ;D Stick a pic of him on it,then give him a walloping  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2008 17:07:07 GMT
WT Its not easy believe me but its his house so i have to be carefull.
FB Now thats a great idea ;D
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Post by Amo on Apr 18, 2008 17:37:12 GMT
Coo you are doing so well Karen!! I'm amazed and so proud you can hang in there so well for William too! Keep going, with the little un, everything is on your side. Big hugs to you both!! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2008 17:40:35 GMT
Thanks Amo im starting to feel the strain ATM how i manage to keep on going is beyond me, but i must be doing something right.
Karen xx
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Post by nightowl on Apr 18, 2008 18:34:06 GMT
Hi Karen. If he's going away with her again, is there no way you can nick his Viagra pills out of his bag?  ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by Tig on Apr 18, 2008 18:53:18 GMT
Hi Karen, I think you are doing great under the difficult circumstances you find yourself in. Don't waste your time worrying about things you cannot change, focus on things that you can do, and what makes you feel happier. No matter how small, if you see some positives they counteract the negatives You've dealt with worse before methinks. x Tig |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2008 19:43:09 GMT
He has not signed off windows messenger and ive found a contact and also in his email contacts, her name is tina and she is only a school kid he says i dont know this person but if its her she is in for a good kicking but until ive got more proof i cant do anything.
I would try to contact them but he will know then and i dont want him to know ive found all these things out, im getting ammo so i can have a good go when things are sorted till then ive got to bide my time.
Sorry im just so angry i could scream aaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2008 21:19:44 GMT
scream darlin' scream!!! ages ago i had a boyfriend.....he let me go. i asked him why, we'd been together 3years, he said :
cause the other girl i fancy has bigger boobs. to be honest, if they had brains they'd be dangerous...!!!!!
my mum had a dodgy boyfriend. he helped make my sister (14yrs difference in age), bloody nightmare,i left home and
got taken in to care at 15yrs. when you fall in love, nowadays (competitive market etc) you don't know what to expect.
mid life crisis is not on my menu...karenwl.... you are lovely.....the most important person in your world is you, and your
boy. letting go of a bad thing, can be shite, catching a good thing, some times is the only choice.
he needs to get out the building, or you both put the house on to rent, and split the money so you can start again.
stay in your pink bubble of love, phone your friends, talk to us, it's not your fault.
take care......SS ;D
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2008 21:48:49 GMT
Ive been checking out a dating agency tonite thats why ive not replied there are loads of people in my area but im not paying £13.99 a month to be registered ;D
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Post by andy on Apr 19, 2008 7:43:10 GMT
Hi Karen.....went through the same about 15 years ago. met girl, with her for 7 years and decided to get married in Barbados. Got home and 6 weeks later, she tells me it's all over and we should never of got married.
Turns out she's been having an affair before and after our marriage.
Luckily we had no kids but i still had to live in the same house as her for 4 months until i got the mortgage sorted.
I had to move away though and back to my hometown so i could have my mates around. In the end, 10 months later, i met my present wife and we've been together for 13 years now.
Even two years after our split, if a certain record came on the radio, there would be a lump in my throat. But time is a good healer and having good friends and family around is the best tonic you will ever have.
Things won't be easy...even after things are settled with the solicitor and do expect it to take a year or two before things start to get back to normality. Once things do start to settle, meet new people by going to evening classes or to the gym once or twice a week.
This will make you a far stronger person....it certainly did with me and one day you will look back on that particular chapter in your life and have a wry smile.
I really wish you the best of luck....things will get better i promise, it'll just take time.
Andy
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Post by nightowl on Apr 19, 2008 11:16:31 GMT
He has not signed off windows messenger and ive found a contact and also in his email contacts, her name is tina and she is only a school kid he says i dont know this person but if its her she is in for a good kicking but until ive got more proof i cant do anything. I would try to contact them but he will know then and i dont want him to know ive found all these things out, im getting ammo so i can have a good go when things are sorted till then ive got to bide my time. Sorry im just so angry i could scream aaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh. Karen, if she is just a kid she may not deserve a kicking (he does though!)  , you don't know what lies he's told her  Not sure dating agency a good idea right now Some weirdos out there and you can't risk any more emotional damage at the moment  |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 19, 2008 11:35:12 GMT
Andy I know exactly what you mean and i will come through this i know i will.
Nightowl there are some odd looking people on the sites, i decided not to register and im going to sort my life out before i think of doing anything like that im not ready for another relationship just yet.
Ive had the best nights sleep for ages ive slept for 14 hours i needed it believe me, even Willism slept.
Thanks again all Karen xx
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Post by Deleted on Apr 19, 2008 18:44:02 GMT
Hang on in there, Karen. What comes around, goes around.... |
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Post by prodigal gardener on May 6, 2008 18:59:24 GMT
Any news on Karen anybody?
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Good move not telling him anything too - let him wonder. Dont forget to keep smiling - it will drive him mental ;D ;D ;D 
;D ;D ;D
, you don't know what lies he's told her 