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Post by Essexgirl on Mar 31, 2008 6:59:39 GMT
Sorry to hear your sad news Karen. Wish there was something I could do to make things easier for you. Chin up, you WILL get through this.  |
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Post by blodau on Mar 31, 2008 9:48:21 GMT
Hi Karen. Just wanted to add my best wishes too. At the moment you must feel like the bottom's fallen out of your world. It does get better (but you know that). We can never know what tomorrow holds for us but often it's good things too. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to someone else. We often forget to nurture ourselves. You will need to look after yourself so that you can look after your son.
Take care
Blod
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2008 7:10:10 GMT
Thank you all so much for your kind wishes of support, im coping quite well but i keep finding out different things and its making me hate him even more.
He has found someone else and she is living with a Drunk, she dosent cook or iron and she does not want children, so im not sure if she is using him to get out of her relationship.
He has now got to do his own washing ironing and cooking as im not doing it.
He also talks to her via the net while im in the house and its begining to get to me if he hasnt hurt me enough.
Im getting my legal advice a week today so after that i can get my life back on track again.
He is away this weekend with her but im glad he is at least i can have a couple of days without him in the house.
Thanks again for all your support.
LOL Karen xx
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Post by nightowl on Apr 4, 2008 7:29:40 GMT
Have you considered putting all his stuff out in binbags while he's away? That would give him something to think about!!  At the moment it seems he's taking the pi** using you til it's convenient to leave and there must be a bad atmosphere in the house when he's there, which can't be good for your lad  It might make you feel empowered, and might make him think again about what he's doing!!! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2008 7:40:53 GMT
He is rubbing my nose in it thats for sure
Im getting revenge ive spat in his tea and used his toothbrush to clean the loo ;D
Im trying to keep things as calm as possible for my son till ive had legal advice, i keep out of his way as much as possible, i had thought of sabotaging the PC but then i could not get on either.
Im biding my time then he will cop the lot ;D
Karen x
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Post by nightowl on Apr 4, 2008 7:44:54 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2008 7:48:01 GMT
Revenge is mine ;D
Ive got a few things to do this morning but i will be back on later for a drink in the Digit catch you later if you are on.
Karen x
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Post by purplejulia on Apr 4, 2008 10:03:47 GMT
I'm so sorry Karen, you are having such a rough time of it. Do not cook, clean, iron or do anything for him. Provided you feel safe, I would make his life as miserable as possible. Is he the father of your son, in that case, you will have to tread very carefully, for the sake of your boy.
Love from Julia
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Post by cjhomebird on Apr 4, 2008 12:42:43 GMT
Hi Karen
Only just spotted this post.
Keep your chin up and concentrate on your son 100% (even though you already do no doubt). He will be your sanity.
Good luck. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.
CJ
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Post by MamIDdau on Apr 4, 2008 14:23:17 GMT
If you were leaving him and he was staying in the house then I could think of a few more revenger things such as kippers under the bed and behind the fridge/radiators... or prawns.... ;D Cress in the carpet, hair removal cream in the shampoo... Oh the fun I used to have ;D
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Post by andy on Apr 4, 2008 16:23:50 GMT
Bloody hell Karen....that's awful. As per FA's first post on this, i've been there, done it and come out a better person. Not much i can really say to comfort you....just be there for your lad and i'm sure he'll be there for you. I really wish you the best of luck  And a big hug from me too  |
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Post by farmersboy on Apr 4, 2008 16:55:13 GMT
If you were leaving him and he was staying in the house then I could think of a few more revenger things such as kippers under the bed and behind the fridge/radiators... or prawns.... ;D Cress in the carpet, hair removal cream in the shampoo... Oh the fun I used to have ;D And there was me thinking you were a sweet,inocent,lovely young lady  |
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Post by andy on Apr 4, 2008 16:59:04 GMT
If you were leaving him and he was staying in the house then I could think of a few more revenger things such as kippers under the bed and behind the fridge/radiators... or prawns.... ;D Cress in the carpet, hair removal cream in the shampoo... Oh the fun I used to have ;D And there was me thinking you were a sweet,inocent,lovely young lady Me too  |
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Post by MamIDdau on Apr 4, 2008 17:07:33 GMT
I am!! Just don't cross me ;D
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2008 17:10:17 GMT
Thanks again all for your support.
William has been battling with me all day and im trying to keep control this im finding hard because of my emotions, i have just got to be strong as i know ive got worse to come.
Im not doing anything for his dad he has to fend for himself now he wanted it so he can have it.
If i do leave the house i will be doing lots of nasty things but nothing that involves too much damage or i could be in trouble.
I am a very kind sweet person ;D but if someone hurts me i hurt back ;D
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Post by MamIDdau on Apr 4, 2008 17:27:54 GMT
See, never upset a woman!
It must be hard for him Karen but I know you'll get thru it.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2008 17:33:57 GMT
It is hard for him i just keep on reasuring him that things will be OK.
Im a very strong person and i will beat this, but i will also be very weary in the future.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2008 19:44:02 GMT
This is the evil piece of ? if you want to print it off and throw darts at it be my guest or if you see him in person give him a slap.  |
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Post by nightowl on Apr 4, 2008 19:52:55 GMT
Oooh no!  He looks like he'd slap you back! PS Karen, I've PM'd you |
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Post by Amo on Apr 4, 2008 20:07:24 GMT
I thought April's hair removal cream in the shampoo was a good one, but it looks like you already did it.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2008 20:11:40 GMT
Nightowl ive had worse than him believe me if he did i know a few people that would sort him out.
Amo he has got even less now he has had a no 1 ;D
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Post by nightowl on Apr 4, 2008 20:15:13 GMT
So actually, he is a BIG number 2 with a no 1 !! ;D ;D ;D
Hold that thought Karen! ;D
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2008 20:18:23 GMT
Will do  Look at the advert at the top for single parents might have a look ;D |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2008 20:44:28 GMT
Nite all thanks for your support xx
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Post by Jardack on Apr 6, 2008 18:53:04 GMT
Hi Karen
Not been on for a few days and have been thinking about you. hope you are keeping strong and that he is gone from your house soon.
((((hugs)))))
Jardack
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2008 16:04:04 GMT
Im more positive today and the thoughts that were going through my head over the weekend have gone i seem to have switched off and my dreams are a lot better too.
He came home early yesterday and i found out that 2 tablets had gone from his bag and there were 4 slips from the Holiday Inn, he said that he wanted to get back before the weather changed and also said he could not concentrate and he kept on breaking down also had lots off stuff going on in his head, i said its not very nice is it.
Im not sure if its because something has gone wrong or that he did not want her to go home, whatever the problem i think they are still together and ive found a live web link on the PC, not that ive been snooping mind ;D.
Im getting on with life and ive stopped thinking what he is doing and im getting stronger every day, i feel more positive now and im going to enjoy my life, he can do what he wants, i hope things have gone wrong for him it will serve him right.
I will try and get on as much as i can to keep you all posted.
Thanks Karen x
Im off to look at the dating board at the top for a laugh ;D
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Post by prodigal gardener on Apr 7, 2008 16:19:13 GMT
Good on ya Karen. I hope he had a terrible weekend, he deserves it. You worry about your son and yourself and bugger him, let him get on with it. Dont forget - we are all rooting ( :  for you  |
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Post by Ruthie on Apr 7, 2008 18:46:16 GMT
I think things will start to get better once you and he are no longer in the same household. If it has to happen i hope it's sooner rather than later. You can then start to re build properly and move on.
Good luck with the "fun" dating, just don't take it too seriously will you!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2008 18:55:52 GMT
Just remember Karen you are a wonderful intelligent woman and any GENTLEMAN will be honoured by your company. Have fun, be choosy and stay safe
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Post by Deleted on Apr 8, 2008 16:38:13 GMT
Thanks all ive had another good day today and its better now im back at work even if it is just an hour.
Ive been up to the lottie this morning and sown some seeds and it was lovely to do what i wanted for a change.
I decided against the dating you have to register and im not ready to find anyone yet thought i would have a look for a laugh.
LOL Karen x
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He looks like he'd slap you back! 
for you 
