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Post by nightowl on May 24, 2008 7:28:25 GMT
Karen, who is Jatren, and why did you say "I will miss you all"  ? |
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2008 18:42:42 GMT
Sorry nightowl my typing was all over the place last night i was in a real mess and i did not expect to be here today, i am thank god i think lady luck shined on me last night.
LOL Karen xx
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Post by nightowl on May 25, 2008 10:44:37 GMT
Don't you DARE let that @rseh*le push you into thoughts like that Karen!!!  Or I'll have to come round and give you a   |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2008 15:47:17 GMT
Nightowl I had been so stupid but it did give me a scare i have just realised how lucky i had been it could have been much worse. Well i cant do anything cos my foot is killing me so im getting caught up on here. Thanks Karen xx |
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Post by Plocket on May 29, 2008 6:55:51 GMT
Oh Karen love I can understand why you would be so scared, but the good thing is that you are now a much stronger person and you are ready to stand up for yourself and William. Have you thought about going to the Citizens Advice Bureau to have a chat with them? You might well have rights to the house. If your ex is getting drunk make sure you keep a charged mobile phone with you at all times so you can phone your family or the police.
Px
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2008 23:10:57 GMT
im feeling all alone guys need support thought i wes doing well but im not
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Post by Tig on Jun 20, 2008 23:18:55 GMT
Pull yourself together girl, it isn't just about you - you must be strong for your lad - he hasn't done anything to deserve a traumatic life!! You know how things pan out, rubbish today, better tomorrow! or if not tomorrow the day after .. find something good to focus on (your son is always going to need you  xxx Tig |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2008 23:27:34 GMT
he is causing more stress than his dad atm cant cope with much more but i will get through it.
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Post by Tig on Jun 20, 2008 23:32:26 GMT
Of course you can cope, you are are woman who has come through worse! It is easy to transfer your stress to kids, they are more sensitive and have much less experience, so more confused and they don't have the ability to rationalise the situation - whereas you do!  |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2008 23:38:25 GMT
I just want to scream but cant want to give up but cant not sure what i want
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Post by Tig on Jun 20, 2008 23:38:52 GMT
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Post by thecleaninglady on Jun 21, 2008 10:51:25 GMT
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Post by Plocket on Jun 21, 2008 17:10:17 GMT
Karen you can't give up, and your lad is bound to be difficult at times because it's hard for him too. When he's at school I would stand in your kitchen and scream long and hard (I do it sometimes!). Have you anyone close by you can talk to, a friend or relative? Why not ask them to go out for a cheap pub lunch or something. You can chat, get things off your chest and have a nice lunch too. I bet you could do it for £5 if you drank soda water (free in most pubs), so it wouldn't break the bank. We are all here for you and will do our best. I just wish I lived round the corner so you could come round. Px |
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Post by Jardack on Jun 21, 2008 19:45:57 GMT
Karen, I've not been on for a while, but had been wondering how you were doing.
Your son is bound to play up - all kids do even if they have no changes in their live so you just have to try and be strong for him and try and keep to any routine that you normally have
Things will get better for you. You will survive this and you definately will emerge a stronger person.
I know you don't know me from adam, but like the others here, I am willing to listen, you can rant here, PM me or email, whatever it takes to help you get through this.
You say your family are close, can any of them come over and give you a cuddle and a shoulder to cry on?
((((hugs))))) thinking of you.
Jardack
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Post by nightowl on Jun 23, 2008 6:57:13 GMT
Oh Karen, only just noticed you've succumbed to the strain again  You were doing so well Such a shame that you are now getting grief from your son on top of everything else, but that's his way of saying he feels insecure, and if you can appear strong and confident he will feel better too (I hope  but I know nothing about kids really). |
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Post by prodigal gardener on Jun 23, 2008 20:48:24 GMT
Chin up Karen - we are all here for you |
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Post by isabella on Jun 23, 2008 21:00:40 GMT
Stay strong Karen Love Pam x |
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Post by Essexgirl on Jun 25, 2008 5:16:43 GMT
Wish I could be there for you. There must be someone in your family you can visit or can visit you surely.  |
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Post by Weeterrier on Jun 25, 2008 8:47:05 GMT
Wish I wasn't so far away. Karen, there MUST be something you can do about this. Men are not allowed to frighten women and children anymore. You MUST seek help, and I think the Citizen's Advice might be a good place to go. Even a phone call to the Samaritans might lead to something.
I'm going to be harsh here, and I am sorry in advance, because I'm a strong person and it would be easy for me.
You must stop putting yourself in the position of 'victim', because he is a weak bully who is feeding off of you. YOU ARE BETTER THAN HE IS.
You must summon up all your strength, stand straight, look him in the eye and stand up to him. Remember, he is a weak shilly-shallier who cannot do anything right by anyone. He is a coward. And cowards fall so easily if confronted.
As soon as you read these latest messages, DO SOMETHING. PHONE SOME AGENCY. If William is feeling the strain too, it is more imperative that you take action as soon as possible. You cannot just sit and wait, frightened.
You say your family is nearby. I cannot understand why they haven't come round and sorted him out. If someone were frightening my daughter, he would have to go into hiding.
Please Karen, stop this now. BE BRAVE.
Again, sorry to be harsh, but not only do I want to sort him out, I want to give you a wee shake too. I am getting so angry with the situation. A cowardly man with absolutely no backbone or decency who has to terrorise a woman and a child to feel like a man. Come on, Karen, you cannot allow this apology of a man to win over you?
This doesn't sound sympathetic, but, believe me, I do really care. But sympathy and kind words are not going to sort this situation out.
ACT NOW. Make a phonecall.
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Post by 4pygmies on Jun 25, 2008 9:10:40 GMT
I was worried about you when I saw you at GWLive, Karen, and I know you were upset about William then but it's OK hunny! I'm sorry I didn't get enough time to talk to you that day. Children don't know how else to react and your lives must be very very stressful all the time. WeeT is right - you MUST get angry and motivate yourself to keep going! Don't get like you did last time and end up hurting yourself but organise your thoughts and feelings, get someone else to be with you and make your ex LISTEN to you! He must care about his son and this situation is damaging him, you and probably your ex too - can't he understand that he must either move out until you have somewhere else to go, or just stop his appalling treatment of you and be a caring father?
You will find the strength to deal with this because women always do - and there are many of us who have been through similar and survived - and you are definitely not on your own! Ring me if you want to have a good go about everything - I am in every evening - use your hurt and anger to make things better for you and your son - but stay in control of it! Take care..MASSIVE HUGS X
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Post by Deleted on Jun 27, 2008 18:05:07 GMT
Thanks again to you all for your advice and support.
Im doing a lot better and he is not getting to me now, im getting on with my life and i do what i want.
Yesterday he came in and said look at this, he had a flashy car parked on the drive and said its mine if i want it his not mine, he just wanted to see if it fit on the drive, I replied you cant afford that you have other things to think about, he came home and said he was not having the car now.
He has also got another woman he went out the other night all dressed up and is going out straight from work tonight.
I never said a word when he went out or came back im not bothered anymore he can do what he likes.
He is away next week so i can have the pc for a change.
Im staying calm and not reacting to things like i used to.
Thanks again Karen xx
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Post by Weeterrier on Jun 27, 2008 21:55:30 GMT
He has ANOTHER woman? Wish he could find one with her own house, so that he could move in with her and leave you alone.
Stay strong lass, you are far better than he will ever be.
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Post by Tig on Jun 27, 2008 22:26:23 GMT
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Post by nightowl on Jun 28, 2008 6:59:10 GMT
Glad you are feeling more positive again Karen Aww, did you go and spoil it for diddums to get himself a big, new, flashy phallic substitute!! ;D At least he's going away for a week (not with the new mug er...girlfriend is it?) Bit of peace for you anyway  Stay strong Karen |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2008 1:13:00 GMT
Thanks guys hes gone now peace at last, if he does get the car he will have to sell it im not finished yet only just started more to come.
Im gonna beat him cos im stronger, i do get down but ive got more fight than he has so i know i will get through.
Ive got friends that give me the courage and fight to get through and thats what i need to help me, without you all it would be different, my fight is back and its going to stay back.
Im a winner and im going to win.
LOL Karen xx
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Post by prodigal gardener on Jun 29, 2008 8:10:28 GMT
You go girl......... see you soon ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by Jardack on Jun 29, 2008 8:26:37 GMT
Karen
Good to see you feeling a little more positive. You are right, you will beat him if you are feeling stronger so go for it!
Hope he goes for good soon and you can get on with your life.
How is your little boy doing now? Hope he's ok too.
Jardack
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Post by Tig on Jun 29, 2008 18:48:49 GMT
Well done Karen, don't wear yourself out though, you need to get plenty of sleep to keep your strength and spirits up  Have a good week, the weather is getting warmer so maybe you can enjoy some time on the lottie. x Tig |
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Post by thecleaninglady on Jun 29, 2008 21:51:58 GMT
Stay strong Karen Love and hugs |
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Post by Weeterrier on Jun 29, 2008 22:14:37 GMT
Well done Karen. Keep believing he is a coward and a useless lummox and not fit to be your man.
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Or I'll have to come round and give you a 
xxx Tig
You were doing so well 
but I know nothing about kids really).
Have a good week, the weather is getting warmer so maybe you can enjoy some time on the lottie. x Tig