I cant take anymore heartache

[Tig]

I have been thinking about her too KL, hope she is OK, nice to know if she is keeping in touch with anyone x Tig

[Amo]

You know, I was just in the garden thinking of bits and bobs and I wondered how Karen was. It's not the best of times but I hope she and little 'un are holding up OK.

[prodigal gardener]

Me too - think I will pm her.

[Deleted]

Sorry ive not been able to get on he has been home a lot and hogging the pc, so ive not had chance to get on.
Ive found out that the person he is seeing is the girls mother but things are on one minite and off the next, he has gone to see her tonight to sort it out once and for all one minuite he is moving to Lancashire the next hes not, she wants him one minuite and the next she dosent, i think he is getting fed up of been messed around and he says she is messing with his head and he is so confused about what to do.
She told him to go home and sort things out with his family the next shes texting him after saying its all over that she still wants him.
Shes confused so am i.

The other week he told me that he wanted me out in 4 weeks and that he could have some money for me to rent somewere else, then nothing more is said.
So much has gone on and so many rows but im not giving in im sticking it out as long as i can, if i really wanted to make things difficult for him i can wait 6-9 months and the state will pay for me to stay here till William is 18 but im not sure i want to do that but it is an option.
He will be away tomorrow and Tue so i will try and get on to catch up on what ive missed.

Thank You all for caring im doing ok and taking each day as it comes.

LOL Karen x

[Weeterrier]

Karen, I think you should think about what YOU want. I think I'd be encouraging him to "follow his heart" and go with her. Because they wouldn't last two minutes, and he'd soon realise which side his bread was buttered.
Cheeky B****R

[Tig]

Glad to hear you are doing OK Karen, just keep doing your best, you can't do anymore than that x Tig

[Amo]

Glad you and William are still being strong Karen!! You stand up for yourself!! Good luck!

[Plocket]

Karen you are doing brilliantly, and I think your OH is being incredibly selfish. He's really mucking you around and so bloody what if the woman can't make her mind up whether she wants him or not - he chose to leave so should do the decent thing and let you sort yourself out. I know it's incredibly hard for you but he's making it even worse.

Whether it's classed as making things difficult or not, surely he doesn't really want you and William out on the street? Surely if he's the one who wants to leave he should go and let you sort yourself out?

Karen I'm so delighted that you are being strong. You have a great deal of support here and I hope it gives you strength too.

[prodigal gardener]

I second all that everyone else has said. Tell him to piddle off. So she is messing his head up............tough shit mate. No one forced him to play away from home did they? What goes around comes around. Looks like he is getting his comeuppance sooner rather than later ;D GOOD Keep smiling girl and nuts to him and her

[Deleted]

Glad to hear that you're holding up Karen , but your ex OH is a complete arse!!!! Ooooh, poor baby, is she messing him about? TOUGH!!!! <maniclaughtersmiley>

[Amo]

(you forgot the manic wheet wheet wheet music from Psycho then RM )

[Deleted]

Cant stop just logged on while hes nipped out hes not away its next week.
It is definatly over between him and her and hes been off it for the last 2 days.
Im carrying on with my plans as normal and im not sure what is going to happen.
I will get on when i can and once again thanks to you all for all your support.
LOL Karen x

[Plocket]

Look after yourself and William Karen

[prodigal gardener]

Feel right sorry for him ............... NOT You worry about yourself and your son Karen. He has shown his true worth. Your better off without. ;D

[Deleted]

Brilliant guys you have cheered me up no end ;D well things seem to be looking up in other ways things have developed in a different area

[Tig]

Don't you get hurt on the rebound Karen, take care, it's a crazy world out there these days (old fuddy duddy moment ) x Tig

[Deleted]

Ive found out today that hes been emailing someone at the railway and hes been saying things about me and this other woman and im ANGRY, i cant say anything or he will know ive been looking.

A really funny thing is that i joined a dating agency for a bit of fun a while ago but have not been on as you have to pay to talk to people who have viewed you, i noticed from the internet history he had looked at the same site so i logged on and he had looked at my profile, im just glad i had not posted a pic of me ;D if he does not know who it is from the info ive put on he must be thick, im just waiting to see if he says anything ;D

I am now putting him in my past and moving on, im still in the house as im at the bottom of the housing list, but one thing is for sure he is going to be out of my life, i just need to find somewre else to go then i can move on.

Im not hurting anymore and im starting to do the things i want, im also back to my old self and ive got my confidence back.
This is my new life and its going to be better im going to make sure of that.

Thanks for listening again

Karen x

[prodigal gardener]

Yea Karen ................. YOU GO GIRL ;D more power to you lass, good on ya. I'm so pleased for you that is fabulous news, and as for him............well rollocks to him ;D

[purplejulia]

Hi Karen

I am glad you are feeling stronger and your confidence is returning. Here is hoping you will find somewhere else to live soon and don't have to put up with that piece of s**t!

Best wishes

PJ

[flowersfriend]

Hi Karen, just found your post....... I am glad you are feeling better, good for you.... and very good luck to you and your son.
Keep thinking of the solutions and not the problems.
FF x

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Will do FF Im getting on with my life now and chris is in the past, im not ready for a serious relationship just yet still getting over the hurt.
Im going to see someone from the council to talk about my housing options the sooner this is sorted the sooner i can get on fully with my life.

Thanks Karen xx

[Plocket]

Hia Karen, well I have to say that on reading your post about the railway and him seeing your dating profile you sound a lot stronger and positive. I really do hope that you and William can get yourself re-settled and have a good life for yourselves. Keep us posted

[Deleted]

Been to the council today and ive got no chance of getting a house unless i can go into rented accomadation first or i could wait till he buys me out say im homeless then i would have to go into a hostel till they could find me somewhere.
Im going to opt for rented but then i also have to prove ive got no further clain on the property, my head is spinning atm all these things going round.
Im also a bit frightened as when he came home last night he told me that he had too much to drink and it was as if someone had flicked a switch, he then said to his 2 friends that he was going to take them both on and punch their lights out.

I told him if he lays one finger on me i would deck him and he would never see william again.
I had 2 hours sleep last night and kept thinking he was going to hurt me.
I need to get out and fast but thats not going to happen yet.

Karen x

[Weeterrier]

As long as you get away from him Karen. Things are bad for you, you will be unsettled and possibly uncomfortable for a while too, but at least you are at the start of a new life, and you never know what could be up ahead. Doesn't sound as if it could be worse than what you have put up with so far. Bet you end up better than he does. And you have William.

[prodigal gardener]

What a total arse HOLE You dont have to put up with that. Have you contacted any house associations? There is one called Sanctuary Housing based in Leeds. One of the lads I work with has a house from them. They have houses all over the place - might be worth giving them a call. My best friend got a house from Spring Board, she was living under similar circumstance to yourself. Might be worth giving them a try?? Good luck. ps we have a spare room if your desperate

[Deleted]

WT Im not going to let him drive me out he could be trying it to make me leave, if things get too bad i will go.

KL Ive got some housing associations to put my name down on buti will have a look at those that you have sudgested.

LOL Karen x

[Deleted]

Ooh, Karen, you've worried me now Keep yourself and your little lad safe

[nightowl]

Oh Karen! He's lost the plot hasn't he? Cos he knows he has ruined everything and has no-one to blame but himself What an @rse!

At least he didn't threaten you (he didn't did he?) Please be careful if he comes home drunk again. They are so unpredictable, and things can get out of control so fast

[Deleted]

Im fine honest and he did not threaten me, my family live a few miles away and would be round in a shot if he did anything, dont think he will but im on my guard.

Karen x

[Deleted]

Not fine ive had a go and he he has retreatedvand gone to bed he cant cope with tings is pay back im not finished yet im out for the kill off out in his car if you dont hear from me speak to alicat i will sendher a text.

Thanks jatren i will miss you all.